A Guide to Prostate Massagers for Beginners

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So you’ve heard about prostate massagers and you’re interested in learning more about them. Whether you know only a little or nothing at all, we’ll take you through the absolute basics.

From what a prostate massager is, where to start, how to use one comfortably and safely, as well as a few key factors to consider when choosing a beginner-friendly prostate massager.

First, what is a prostate massager? We’ll begin by telling you about the prostate. 

It’s a walnut-sized gland that can be found in men, below the bladder and in front of the rectum, and surrounds the urethra. What’s the purpose of the prostate? It produces seminal fluid that makes up about 30 percent of semen, and helps nourish and protect sperm. 

The prostate is also useful as it helps in ejaculation, and assists in urine control. Another perk? When stimulated, an orgasm unlike no other can be experienced. This is because it’s a highly sensitive area full of nerve endings.

To stimulate the prostate, a finger or fingers could be used, but prostate massagers are more efficient as they’ve been made in such a way that it targets the area perfectly with its curve. You see, a prostate massager is a sexual wellness device that’s been made specifically to stimulate the prostate. 

There are different kinds of prostate massagers. Some are manual, which means that it doesn’t vibrate but is still curved to stimulate the P-spot. Some vibrate, which adds in an extra layer of stimulation. And then there are some that automatically move or rotate for hands-free fun, and others that are designed to stay in-place so that you could wear them during other sexual activity, if desired.

For beginners to prostate play, it’s essential to start with the right one for ease of use, comfort, and safety, so we’ll touch on things such as the size, shape, material, design, and settings below. 

Before that, it’ll be interesting to know that there are many benefits to prostate massage.

What are the benefits of a prostate massage?

The benefits of receiving a prostate massage range from sexual pleasure to medical relief. Here are 3 benefits to prostate massage:

1. Sexual pleasure and orgasm benefits

A prostate orgasm can lead to an intense fully-body orgasm that differs from traditional penile orgasms. It can also enhance ejaculation with men reporting that they experience stronger, longer-lasting orgasms with increased semen volume. This can be beneficial for solo or couples.

2. Medical and health benefits

Prostate massage could help with prostate health. For example, it could relieve congestion in those who have prostatitis (an inflamed prostate) thus reducing pain and inflammation. It could also reduce urinary symptoms, like easing frequent urination, and a weak stream. It may also improve blood flow. Additionally, a prostate massage is good for pelvic floor health as it helps relax the muscles, which can contribute to chronic pelvic pain.

3. Mental and emotional benefits

Enjoying a prostate massage until orgasm can result in feeling more relaxed and less stress due to the release of feel-good hormones such as endorphins and oxytocin. This practice can also contribute to a better overall body awareness as it encourages one to explore their bodies and new pleasure zones.

Buying your first prostate massager

Now that you’re in-the-know about all of the potential benefits of prostate massage, as a beginner, you may be wondering where to start. Don’t stress, we’re here to help you find the best beginner prostate massager!

Before you buy any beginner prostate toys though, consider these tips to help you… 

1. Appearance

As a beginner, go for a slim prostate massager that is gently curved or possibly even tapered or bullet-shaped for easier insertion. Opt for one that has a smaller girth, maybe 0.8 to 1.2 inches. Perhaps choose one that has about a 3 to 4 inch insertable length, as the prostate can be found 2 to 3 inches inside of the rectum.

2. Sex toy material

We often recommend getting any sex toy in a body safe silicone. So for a prostate massager, go for body safe silicone or ABS plastic for comfort. Definitely avoid porous materials such as TPE/TPR, latex rubber, jelly, CyberSkin, foam, or sponge. Porous materials can harbour bacteria, mould, and other microorganisms that make them harder to clean and less hygienic.

3. Massager settings

By this we mean if the prostate massager is used manually or if it has vibrational settings. A vibrating prostate massager does provide extra stimulation and undoubtedly feels amazing but it does require a learning curve. For that reason, it’s recommended that beginners to prostate play start with a manual, non-vibrating prostate massager so that it’s easier to control and allows for gradual exploration. 

4. Massager design

You will definitely want a beginner prostate toy that comes with either a flared base or a long handle. 

A flared base will prevent the toy from getting lost inside of the rectum. Unlike the vagina that has a cervix that acts like a natural stopping point, the anus is a long, muscular tube with no internal barrier. A flared base will thus allow you to safely retrieve the toy.

A long handle that’s easy to hold is equally as useful as it provides a secure grip to remove the toy. You can then enjoy the experience by adjusting angles and pressure without the toy slipping out of reach.

How to use a prostate massager in 6 steps

Before we discuss how to use a prostate massager safely, it’s important to know that finding the right toy makes all the difference. 

With the right prostate massager, you can have an enjoyable and stress-free experience. With the wrong one, you may just be put off forever.

So we do hope that you’ll take some notes on our beginner tips above.

Step 1: Relax and start slowly

Choose a private, quiet space where you can relax your body. Deep breathing helps, or you may want to have a warm bath beforehand to relax the body and mind.

Step 2: Use plenty of water-based lubricant

Use a high quality water-based lube, especially if your prostate massager is made of silicone. Make sure to add the lube to both the massager and to your anus, using it generously, as this will aid in comfort and safety.

Step 3: Find a comfortable position for insertion

There are various positions to try when inserting a prostate toy. The easiest for beginners may just be to lie on your side with your knees bent, or on your back with your legs up.

Step 4: Start with gentle movements or vibrations

Start with beginner-friendly stimulation such as external stimulation. This can be to gently massage the area around the anus using a finger or perhaps an external sex toy to relax the sphincter. After this, you could try inserting one finger to get an idea of what kind of pressure and motion feels good.

Step 5: Insert the prostate massager

When you’re ready, place the tip of the massager at the entrance and wait for your anal muscles to naturally open a little. Slowly guide the massager in with minimal pressure and don’t force it. Breathe deeply and go slow… your body will tell you when it is ready to continue or to stop. If you feel any pain or discomfort, stop immediately. If you’re ready to continue, insert the prostate massager until it sits comfortably against the prostate (it feels like a firm, round bump). You can then leave it at that, or use gentle rocking, light thrusting, or subtle pressure changes.

Step 6: Clean properly after each use

When you’re finished using your anal toy, you must clean it. Slowly and gently remove the massager and wash it thoroughly. We’ll touch more on how to clean your toy below.

Some other pro tips for prostate play for beginners:

• Go at your own pace, but a session can last anywhere between 10 to 30 minutes

• You may not reach prostate orgasm on your first or first few tries and that’s totally normal

• You may not love the sensation at first, but it takes patience and exploration

Which lube to use with a prostate massager

Because one of the safest sex toy materials to use is silicone, we recommend that you use a water-based lubricant with your prostate massager.

Alternatively, if you choose a glass or metal non-motorised prostate toy, you could use water-based, silicone-based, or hybrid lube (water + silicone).

If you are using a silicone prostate massager, do not use silicone lube as it can degrade the toy.

How to clean and store a prostate massager

To clean and maintain your silicone prostate massager you can rinse the toy immediately after use with warm water to prevent any buildup. 

After that, use a mild, unscented soap or a toy cleaner and scrub gently. You can use your hands or a soft cloth, but don’t use rough sponges which can damage the material. After this, rinse the toy thoroughly and allow it to either air dry or pat it dry with a lint-free cloth.

If you have a glass or metal prostate massager, you can use the same advice as above, or you could boil it if the toy is made of 100 percent borosilicate glass. Do this by submerging it in boiling water for 5 to 10 minutes, removing it with tongs and placing it on a towel to cool down.

Once your sex toy is cleaned, it’s recommended to store it in a lint-free bag or box, away from other sex toys (they can degrade when touching). Be sure to keep it in a cool, dry place out of direct sunlight.

If you have a rechargeable prostate massager, it’s important to read the instructions for your specific toy. Most require a full charge before use, and to not overcharge it in the next charges.

With this guide, we hope you’ve learned how to choose the right prostate massager for you, as a beginner. Remember, go small, slow, be patient, and focus on comfort and enjoyment. If you feel any pain or discomfort, you should stop immediately.